Leadership Becomes Her: Simple, Strategic Solutions for Christian Women Who Lead

Hey, Friend,
People pleasing is not all bad, but sometimes you will have to choose between pleasing others and taking care of yourself. That includes having strong, healthy boundaries, not invisible boundaries that are always moving.
Self care is an act of worship to God your creator. It is your responsibility and no one else's. In today’s episode, I share some signs for you to look for to know if your people pleasing is interfering with your self care.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend,
Are you a people pleasing, conflict avoiding leader?
In today’s episode, I share some real problems that will surface in your organization if people pleasing is your blind spot.
People pleasing is not bad; we all want to be liked and we want to make others happy. But if people pleasing becomes your motivation it can kill your credibility and greatly reduce your effectiveness as a leader.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend,
How many times have you said, “I’m a people pleaser” as an explanation for why you are working so hard to make everyone else happy? You are not alone.
A 2024 poll by YouGov found that 49% of American adults consider themselves people pleasers. In addition, 92% reported that they engage in people-pleasing behaviors from time-to-time.
In today’s episode, the first of a three-part series on people pleasing, I share some reasons why people are committed to people pleasing.
Is people pleasing a good trait? It can be.
Is people pleasing unhealthy? It can also be that.
In next week’s episode, I pose the question: Is People Pleasing Your Leadership Blind Spot?
And in the last of the three-part series: People Pleasing vs. Self Care.
I hope you give this series a listen.
I pray this blesses you.
Becky

Hey, Friend!
There are some days when I think I am a pretty good listener. Other days, I am highly distracted and all of my listening skills go out the window. Does that sound like you?
Let’s commit together to becoming better listeners. It will enhance our relationships, build trust in our leadership, and minimize frustration when we walk away from conversations barely remembering what was said.
So, I have compiled 10 tips for becoming a better listener. I am committed to putting them into practice. How about you?
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
Everyone starts a new job wanted to make a good impression. You want those who hired you to know that they made a good hire. So you listen to those eager to tell you all of the things you should change right away.
But don’t be fooled. Although there may be some things that need immediate attention, such as immediately putting child safety measures in place, or filling a spot in a classroom, most change needs to wait until you have laid the foundation.
I am suggesting three priorities you need to have in your first year of ministry, before you begin making changes.
Establish Credibility
Lead with Curiosity
Build Relationships
Each one of these is more relational than task oriented, but will help tremendously as you get others on board with any change that needs to be made.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, friend!
Think about those times you have interacted with someone who is passive-aggressive, or who has a hidden agenda. Someone who says one thing but means another. It is unsettling, disorienting, and just plain exhausting.
In contrast, it is SO refreshing it is to interact with someone who is ernest. Someone who is sincere, genuine, and straightforward. Someone who is honest, authentic, and transparent not only in their communication, but in their actions.
In today’s episode, I share 8 benefits of being ernest, why it is good to be ernest, and how it benefits your leadership, and your relationships.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend!
If you want to grow and develop in the workplace, you have to be coachable, meaning that you must be able to welcome feedback and act on what you are learning about yourself.
In today’s episode, I compare the qualities of someone who is coachable with someone who is not. As a leader who is responsible for developing those under her leadership, you will want to begin with those employees or volunteers who demonstrate coachability, if you want to see optimum growth and development.
And while you are at it, make sure that you are demonstrating coachability yourself!
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
I am a huge fan of Brene' Brown’s work. In her book, Dare to Lead she introduces the idea of the Rumble, a conversation where the participants agree to enter with an open mind and a soft heart. In today’s episode, I share what I have learned about the Rumble.
It is a learning exercise whereby you seek to understand more than you seek to be understood. It requires curiosity, humility and a commitment to the health of your relationship, or repairing it if need be.
It absolutely works.
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
Every organization, even every church has a culture and a climate. The culture is what matters to us, how we do things here. The climate is the essence - what it feels like to work here and to be here.
In today’s episode, I share how you can use finesse to protect and enrich the climate of your organization. It involves three options:
Preventative Measures (building trust)
Maintenance Measures (addressing conflict)
Repair Measures (honest, non-threatening conversations)
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
Whether you are in your first ministry role right out of college, or you have entered ministry as a second career, there are at least 6 things you need to consider that will be beneficial to you as you learn the world of ministry, which is like nothing else.
Manage your expectations
Leverage your experience/expertise
Be curious
Ask for what you need
Seek relationships/support
Embrace your role as a new minister on your way to becoming a Specialist, or as a seasoned professional who has entered ministry as a Generalist
I pray this blesses you!
Becky