Leadership Becomes Her: Simple, Strategic Solutions for Christian Women Who Lead

Hey, Friend!
Sad truth: many women in ministry don’t feel valued. In today’s episode, I address some of the unique challenges that women in ministry face and what a church can do to communicate their value.
But I have a challenge for you:
🌿 This week, choose ONE woman in ministry you know—whether she’s your pastor, staff member, mentor, or friend—and do something intentional to show her she is valued:
✅ Speak a word of encouragement.✅ Invite her into the conversation.✅ Thank her for the way she leads.
When women in ministry feel valued, they lead with confidence, joy, and freedom—and the entire church benefits. 🎧 Tune in to the latest episode of Leadership Becomes Her: “Why Many Women in Ministry Don’t Feel Valued.”
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
Ministry is rewarding—but it can also be draining. Behind the pulpit and the programs are real people who long to know that their presence matters.
In this week’s episode of Leadership Becomes Her, I’m talking about what it really takes for a minister to feel valued. From encouragement to trust, from supporting their whole life to sharing the work of ministry, you’ll discover practical ways to help the leaders in your life thrive.
This episode isn’t just for ministers—it’s for anyone who wants to create a culture of honor and care in the church.
Let’s be people who notice, encourage, and lift up those who lead us.
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
We’ve all been there—sitting in a meeting where the questions feel less like curiosity and more like an interrogation. Even when a leader’s intentions are good, the way questions are asked can leave people defensive, guarded, or even discouraged.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
In this week’s episode of Leadership Becomes Her, I share practical strategies for asking questions that build trust instead of fear. You’ll learn:
✅ Why questions sometimes feel like an inquisition✅ The mindset shift from questioning to improve vs. questioning to prove✅ 8 practical strategies for curious, supportive conversations✅ Real “swap this for that” examples you can use immediately
Whether you lead a team at work, a ministry, or even within your home, the way you ask questions shapes the culture around you.
Let’s commit to asking questions that invite growth—not shut it down.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky
P.S. Forward this email to a fellow leader who could use some encouragement in how they approach conversations!

Hey, Friend,
If you’re a woman in ministry, you already know—friendships can be complicated.
Work friends and church friends are a blessing. They “get it” in ways few others can. But when all your friendships are tied to the same place where you work and worship, life can quickly feel fragile.
That’s what this week’s episode of Leadership Becomes Her is all about:
👉 Work Friends vs. Outside Community: Why Both Matter for Women in Ministry
In the episode, I share:
The benefits and boundaries of friendships within your church
The risks of making work your whole world
The life-giving importance of having community outside your ministry
Practical steps to build friendships that see you—not just your role
You’ll also hear two real-life stories: one where a church friendship fell apart, and another where a friendship thrived because of healthy boundaries.email subject line
Are your friendships too tied to your ministry role?
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friends,
Women need women. Whether it is a daughter leaning on her mom, grandmother, or sister, or neighbors becoming friends, we are hardwired to need each other. Some women have the same friends throughout adulthood; other women continuously seek new friends. And if you work outside of the home, developing work friends is very important to work satisfaction.
But ministry is still largely a man’s world. It is not uncommon for a church to have one female minister on staff. To further complicate matters, it is vital to have relationships outside of your work context. So it often falls on the woman to find or create a community outside of work.
In today’s episode, I talk about the need women have for community outside of their ministry context and what they can do about it.
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend,
We tend to think of leadership as those people who have titles and authority over people who operate under their leadership.
But many people who are leaders, meaning they have significant influence, do not have an official title. In today’s episode, I explore a powerful idea: You don’t need a fancy title to be a leader.
In fact, 70% of influence inside organizations comes from people who aren’t officially in charge. Silent leaders quietly shape their teams and organizations, yet aren’t always recognized for their impact.
Toward the end of today’s episode, I share some ways you can leverage your silent leadership.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend!
In today’s episode, I share a little about the story of Barnabas, as recorded in the book of Acts. His nickname, given to him by the Apostles, means Son of Encouragement.
When you look at the Greek word: paraklesis, the meaning goes way beyond what we think of when we think of encourage. This is why Barnabas stood out. His encouragement was bold, visionary, generous, and healing. And your encouragement can be that as well.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend,
I probably don’t have to tell you this. Women need women. We need women we can trust, confide in, share our lives with, and bounce ideas off of.
I recently took a survey of women in ministry to find out what they needed and they responded with several answers. But the one answer that every woman gave was this:
I need a community of women in ministry outside of my context.
That’s why I started offering Kairos Cohort. This is a group coaching program whereby we meet 7 times a year via zoom and twice a year in my home (for those in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area). Others meet with us completely on zoom.
In today’s episode, I share with you how it is going.
I pray this blesses you,
Becky

Hey, Friend!
Ministers don’t like to talk about ministry as business, but in the U.S. it is in most cases.
If you want church to be just ministry, meet in a home, don’t collect money, and have everyone serve as a volunteer.
The minute you buy or rent space, start paying people and purchase goods, you have become a nonprofit business with all of the benefits and expectations of the IRS that go along with that.
Ministers would do well to fully understand what all of that means so that they can steward their budgets accordingly.
In today’s episode, I give a brief overview as to what church as business means and the gratitude we should feel for those bookkeepers and CPA’s out there who effectively steward the church’s resources.
I pray this blesses you!
Becky

Hey, Friend,
If you have ever been mentored in leadership, or if you have mentored someone else, then you know the value of having someone walking alongside you, answering your questions, showing you how things work at this church that you just started working for.
And, yet, many churches do not provide mentors for their new hires. In today’s episode, I share the benefits of having a mentoring system that will be guaranteed to set up new hires for success.
I pray this blesses you,
Becky